8 SEPTEMBER 2001, Page 63

Q. A friend of mine has had three little boys

in quick succession and I am godmother to one of them. My problem is that I cannot remember which one is my godson. This is not so bad as it sounds as, since I live in Norfolk, I have not seen my friend for some time. Also the boy, whichever it is, has not yet been christened. Clearly I cannot ask my friend to illuminate me, so what should I do?

Name withheld, Norfolk A. Send an ex gratia £10 book token clipped to a postcard in an envelope addressed to 'Master Smith'. Even a baby boy can enjoy a picture book, and you will receive a thank-you letter. It may be written by the mother on his behalf, but either way the 'signature' will reveal the appropriate name.

Mary Killen